过得真快，又是一年了，各位妈妈爸爸辛苦了。为了不辜负这个我们自己的节日，让我们暂时放下工作，家务，责任，义务，来忙里偷闲，大快朵颐，谈笑风生吧。。。

暂定聚餐时间，地点如下：

本周四5/5,12pm

上海乔家栅  

 Shanghai Restaurant  

地址: 10877 N Wolfe Rd Cupertino, CA 95014 

电话: 408-873-4813  

位于Cupertino 中信广场。原来想去蜀一蜀二，看网上的评价不好。老乔可是给了四星，不会太差。

红花说得好，想做的事就要立刻做，才能少留遗憾。妈妈爸爸们快来报名吧，犒劳一下自己。

来日虽方长

找乐要趁早

只争朝夕

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2011 Bay Area Spring Camp will be held at the Mt. Hermon Conference Center in May 20-22, 2011. We are pleased to announce that the official registration has starting. Please check the following link to register for yourself, your family and your invited friends:  http://www.tianlu-ministries.org

For detailed information about the Spring Camp, please check the web site: www.springcamp.org.

For further question, please contact: register@tianlu-ministries.org.

庆祝BAYECHO成立一周年，网友聚餐，家长分享教育及升学经验．现暂定PARTY时间，地点如下：

4/8 （周五），中午11:45am

网友推荐：sunny buffet in sunnyvale,  中餐$7.99 一个人， 有sushi, 现炒面，海鲜。 这个餐馆在237和Mathilda 交接处， 从南来或从北来，交通都很方便，适合上班族．他家的晚餐和周末比较贵。小小孩免费。中小孩收￥3.49（？）

 统计一下啊。

 阿朵，hotchili，大河长流，绿叶红花，yoyo，橘子黄了，learningMom，Pegasus，凡凡妈，Little Star，Camomile, Bill, Kathy+friend, 大田, Sunny，carehe，brookpeng，苏楠，懒妈妈，mom2014，bluerose，yuanyuanmom，三毛，Mom42Boys，qingchuan，鸳鸯奶茶,等等…

地震時的救命工具 — 地震包

據說日本居民都有準備『地震救命包』的東西，以下簡稱『地震包』。 地震包並不是外面在賣的東西，不是一種商品，而是地震時拿了就要跑的『快速背包』，裡面應該有幾種東西 ( 已經整理好了 — 大家快去準備吧！ ) 。『輕便的背包』：要可以一背就走、準備逃命到空曠的地方！主要要放下面的東西在裡面：

逃難程序： ( 也就是逃難時程序 )

一、睡覺型：

發 現不對，醒來立刻背上『地震包』、穿上鞋、拿起旁邊準備的手電筒 ( 不是背包的中小型手電筒唷！ ) 將口哨套在脖子上、戴上防毒面具或口罩套上安全帽準備逃命，若發現地板已經傾斜或屋頂倒下來，就要跑到堅硬物體的底下，如家裡樑柱的底下，找遮蔽物接下來 若可以往外跑 , 盡量往外面空曠的地方跑 , 如學校操場、旁邊沒有大樓的地方。此外記得不要坐電梯，要走要走樓梯反正拿了『地震包』，就要趕快找掩蔽物或跑出家裡逃命了！ ( 聞到濃煙的味道或著火，第一件事就是套上防毒面具若沒有就戴上口罩 )

二、未睡型：

背上地震包，穿上鞋、拿起旁邊準備的手電筒 ( 不是背包的中小型手電筒唷！ ) , 將 口哨套在脖子上、戴上防毒面具或口罩套上安全帽準備逃命往外跑，盡量往外面空曠的地方跑，如學校操場、旁邊沒有大樓的地方此外記得不要坐電梯，要走樓梯， 反正拿了『地震包』，就要趕快找掩蔽物或跑出家裡逃命了！ ( 聞到濃煙的味道或著火，第一件事就是套上防毒面具若沒有就戴上口罩 )

三、陷入困境型：

醒來時，發現自己還沒死，但以身陷最艱苦的房屋倒塌困境，甚至房間已經出不去就想辦法先拿地震包，背上後就找掩蔽物拿出防毒面具或口罩戴上，手拿起旁邊的手電筒，套上安全帽，戴上口哨，若有鐵鎚，用鐵鎚敲打發生聲響，呼救時應間隔一段時間，以保持體力等待救援。

四、差一點沒命型 ( 還可拿到旁邊配備 ) ：

穿戴上旁邊準備的東西，將口哨套上，戴上防毒面具或口罩，戴上小型安全帽。

五、已經剩下最後一口氣型：

求求佛祖、耶穌基督、聖母瑪莉亞 …………… 等神明保佑 ……
當 然啦！『地震包』更要在發生大地震後準備好，因為不知道一開始的主震是不是真的主震，搞不好是假主震，後面還有更大的。還有就是家裡有幾個人就要準備幾個 『地震救命包』，必要配備是一定要的，次要配備也是最好要有。如果你家房子已經有裂縫或已被列為『危樓』，更要準備睡覺時要放在身邊，發現情形不對，第一 件事就是快拿地震包背在身上，還有要記得東西放夠就好，不要裝一大堆，到時候沒被壓死或餓死，都被重死了！搞不好還搬不動 。

A NICE STORY

Years ago, I asked God to give me a spouse, "You don’t own because you didn’t ask" God said. Not only I asked for a spouse but also explained what kind of spouse I wanted.

I want a nice, tender, forgiving, passionate, honest, peaceful, generous, understanding, pleasant, warm, intelligent, humorous, attentive, compassionate and truthful. I even mentioned the physical characteristics I dreamt about. As time went by I added the required list of my wanted spouse.
One night, in my prayer, God talked to my heart: "My servant, I cannot give you what you want".

I asked, "Why God?"

God said, "Because I am God and I am fair. I am the truth and all I do are true and right".
I asked " God, I don’t understand why I cannot have what I ask from you?"

God answered, " I will explain. It is not fair and right for Me to fulfill your demand because I cannot give something that is not your own self. It is not fair to give someone who is full of love to you if sometimes you are still hostile, or to give you someone generous but sometimes you can be cruel, or someone forgiving; however, you still hide revenge,someone sensitive; however, you are very insensitive…."

He then said to me, "It is better for Me to give you someone who I know could grow to have all qualities you are searching rather than to make you waste your time to find someone who already have the qualities you want. Your spouse would be bone from your bone and flesh from your flesh and you will see yourself in her and both of you will be one.

Marriage is like a school. It is a life-long span education. It is where you and your partner make adjustments and aim not merely to please each other, but to be better human beings and to become a good team. I do not give you a perfect partner, because you are not perfect either. I give you a partner with whom you would grow together"

**Keep this in mind.

This is for all: the recently married, the ones who have been married, the soon to get married, and the ones who are still looking **

5 Golden rules for finding your life partner

by Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.

A relationships coach lays out his 5 golden rules for evaluating the prospects of long-term marital success.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms.Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they’re getting married,they’ll say: "We’re in love." I believe is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound not politically correct, there’s a profound truth here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: You can’t build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot more. Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you’re serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION #1:

Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you’re married for 20 or 30 years, that’s a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog and share your blues and laughter together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful.

You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life bottom line-and marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION #2:

Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust – i.e. trust that I won’t get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings.

A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION #3:

Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test?

Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing."

So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world: People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION #4:

How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as a waiters, bus boy, taxi driver, etc.

How do they treat parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don’t have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they’ll have gratitude for you –who can’t do nearly as much for them! You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION #5:

Is there anything I’m hoping to change about this person after we’re married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they’re married. As a colleague of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage … for the worse!" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn’t have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.

Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don’t want to find yourself in trouble because you didn’t do your homework.

一年一度，谷歌涂鸦比赛又来了。今年的题目是将来我想做什么。这些是提供参考的题目：

成为一名医生，搞个自己的电视节目。

发明火箭鞋，飞上天空。

开一个动物园，为了世界上濒临绝迹的动物。

头等大奖是 1.5 万美元的大学奖学金，所在学校可以得到 2.5 万美元的技术拨款，当然还有其他的多项小奖。

女儿参加过两次比赛。第一次参赛时，她是七岁。那时规定必须从学校申报，每个学校最多送六份。女儿画了热带雨林的徽标，兴匆匆地去她的小学报名。不知怎么搞的，学校没有拿到报名号码，所以女儿的画没有送出去。

第二年，女儿八岁。这次学校做了充分的准备，早早地拿到了报名号码。女儿又画了一幅热带雨林的徽标，送到学校参加比赛。女儿的作品进了校级六强，我是半个虎妈，心中已经美滋滋了。

今年的比赛又来了，女儿决定换个口味，画点别的东西。行，重在参与，画什么都可以。她就描啊描，周末赶了一幅画出来，一蹦一跳地送到学校去了。

今年谷歌修改了规则，学生可以自己送作品，学校也没有六个名额的限制。参赛作品的截止日是 2011 年 3 月 16 日，还来得及噢，要不要让您的小孩来参与？

女儿七岁时的参赛作品

女儿八岁时的参赛作品

这个是涂鸦比赛网址：http://www.google.com/doodle4google/

地点：曙光華人基督教會（First Morning Light Chinese Christian Church）
 

Google Map: 653 W. Fremont Ave. Sunnyvale CA 94087

时间：2月26日（六）晚7点

暑假到中国做公益, 2011年项目开始报名

你在学习中文吗？你想帮助那些没有你幸运的中国孩子吗？你了解你生命基因中带来的中国底蕴吗？你想体验一下艰苦的生活锻炼你的意志吗？你想了解当今世界上争议最大的国家吗？你想了解渐渐在世界上扮演重要角色的充满机会的中国吗？

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