孩子,你怎么舍得这样离开?

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Centers for Disease Control and Prevention 数据: 美国每年平均至少30,000人自杀身亡,其中4,000左右年龄在24岁以下。

附上美国学校心理学会 (National Association of School Psychologists) 总结的相关文章。

Preventing Youth Suicide: Tips for Parents and Educators

By Andrea Cohn, NCSP
Howard County (MD) Public Schools

Suicide is the third leading cause of death among youth between 10 and 19 years of age. However, suicide is preventable. Youth who are contemplating suicide frequently give warning signs of their distress. Parents, teachers, and friends are in a key position to pick up on these signs and get help. Most important is to never take these warning signs lightly or promise to keep them secret. When all adults and students in the school community are committed to making suicide prevention a priority — and are empowered to take the correct actions — we can help youth before they engage in behavior with irreversible consequences.

Suicide Risk Factors

Certain characteristics are associated with increased suicide risk. These include:

Mental illness including depression, conduct disorders, and substance abuse
Family stress/dysfunction
Environmental risks, including presence of a firearm in the home
Situational crises (i.e., traumatic death of a loved one, physical or sexual abuse, family violence, etc.)
Suicide Warning Signs

Many suicidal youth demonstrate observable behaviors that signal their suicidal thinking. These include:

Suicidal threats in the form of direct and indirect statements
Suicide notes and plans
Prior suicidal behavior
Making final arrangements (e.g., making funeral arrangements, writing a will, giving away prized possessions)
Preoccupation with death
Changes in behavior, appearance, thoughts and/or feelings
What to Do

Youth who feel suicidal are not likely to seek help directly; however, parents, school personnel, and peers can recognize the warning signs and take immediate action to keep the youth safe. When a youth gives signs that he or she may be considering suicide, the following actions should be taken:

Remain calm.
Ask the youth directly if he or she is thinking about suicide.
Focus on your concern for their wellbeing and avoid being accusatory.
Listen.
Reassure them that there is help and they will not feel like this forever.
Do not judge.
Provide constant supervision. Do not leave the youth alone.
Remove means for self-harm.
Get help: Peers should not agree to keep the suicidal thoughts a secret and instead should tell an adult, such as a parent, teacher, or school psychologist. Parents should seek help from school or community mental health resources as soon as possible. School staff should take the student to the designated school mental health professional or administrator.
The Role of the School in Suicide Prevention

Children and adolescents spend a substantial part of their day in school under the supervision of school personnel. Effective suicide and violence prevention is integrated with supportive mental health services, engages the entire school community, and is embedded in a positive school climate through student behavioral expectations and a trustful student/adult relationship. Therefore, it is crucial for all school staff to be familiar with and watchful for risk factors and warning signs of suicidal behavior. The entire school staff should work to create an environment where students feel safe sharing such information. School psychologists and other crisis team personnel, including the school counselor and school administrator, are trained to intervene when a student is identified at risk for suicide. These individuals conduct suicide risk assessment, warn/inform parents, provide recommendations and referrals to community services, and often provide follow-up counseling and support at school.

Parent Notification and Participation

Parent notification is a vital part of suicide prevention. Parents need to be informed and actively involved in decisions regarding their child’s welfare. Even if a child is judged to be at low risk for suicidal behavior, schools should ask parents to sign a Notification of Emergency Conference form to indicate that relevant information has been provided. These notifications must be documented. Additionally, parents are crucial members of a suicide risk assessment as they often have information critical to making an appropriate assessment of risk, including mental health history, family dynamics, recent traumatic events, and previous suicidal behaviors.

After a school notifies a parent of their child’s risk for suicide and provides referral information, the responsibility falls upon the parent to seek mental health assistance for their child. Parents must:

Continue to take threats seriously. Follow-through is important even after the child calms down or informs the parent “they didn’t mean it.” Avoid assuming behavior is attention seeking.
Access school supports. If parents are uncomfortable with following through on referrals, they can give the school psychologist permission to contact the referral agency, provide referral information, and follow up on the visit. The school can also assist in providing transportation to get the parent and child to the referral agency.
Maintain communication with the school. After such an intervention, the school will also provide follow-up supports. Parent communication will be crucial to ensuring that the school is the safest, most comfortable place for their child.
Resiliency Factors

The presence of resiliency factors can lessen the potential risks that lead to suicidal ideation and behaviors. Once a child or adolescent is considered at risk, schools, families, and friends should work to build these protective factors in and around the youth. These include:

Family support and cohesion, including good communication
Peer support and close social networks
School and community connectedness
Cultural or religious beliefs that discourage suicide and promote healthy living
Adaptive coping and problem-solving skills, including conflict-resolution
General life satisfaction, good self-esteem, sense of purpose
Easy access to effective medical and mental health resources

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One Response to 孩子,你怎么舍得这样离开?

  1. 不管真正的trigger是什么,这件悲剧都为我们社区敲响警钟,让家长看到青少年在生活中处理问题和心理承受力与学习成绩不成正比。我们确实要在重视孩子学业成绩的同时,更强调他/她们的心理健康。生命没了,任何成绩都是没有意义的。

    2003年的文章“Jumpers”采访从金门大桥跳下后为数不多的幸存者,发现他/她们在空中的那一瞬间都后悔自己的选择了, 才发现一直以为不能改变的难题和困境,其实都没什么大不了,都可以补救。成人尚且摆脱不了一时的冲动,更何况涉世未深的少年?但4妙钟的时间,再幸运也只能做到改变落水的姿势,至少伤残。所以自杀的预防,还是要从小从心理承受力,感恩的心态和幸福感的培养做起。

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